Self-Esteem & Perfectionism/Imposter Syndrome

Perfectionism is What Made You Successful

 But, there is such thing as too much of a good thing. Your high standards and lofty goals sounded great when you first ventured into the work world. You wanted to do the best, be the best. Your attention to detail and high standards definitely played an important role in your success.

Sometimes perfectionism actually gets in your way. It stops you from doing things because you’re afraid it won’t be perfect, it won’t be your best. Do you feel like nothing you do is good enough? Chances are that you’ve felt that way for so long, you’ve come to believe it yourself. Often times I find that people who struggle with perfectionism often had very critical parents or caretakers, who made them feel that even their best wasn’t good enough, so they always tried to do better, be better.  For you, perfection equaled love and acceptance. It seemed that the only way you could be loved and accepted was to be the best – to be perfect. And that’s carried over into adulthood.

To make things worse, perfectionism is often rewarded in our society, so you don’t even realize the toll it’s taking on you until you’re buried under a massive “To Do” list, that you’re paralyzed to even begin.

Perfectionism often leads to procrastination, which triggers shame and self-judgment.

While perfectionists are often indirectly rewarded in the workplace, this frequently causes increased anxiety, problems in work relationships, and even problems in relationships at home.

Through therapy, you can finally learn to let go of the unreasonable expectations you hold for yourself and begin to experience personal freedom.  This involves learning about where these tendencies came from, how they’ve served you in your life, and how they’re holding you back.

Imagine What It Would Be Like To Be Free From Perfectionism & Have a Positive Self-Image

You’d feel confident being yourself, not always trying to be someone or something you’re not, to live up to a perfect standard.

You’d be able to relax and be fully present with your friends and family.

You’d truly understand that your value and worth have nothing to do with how well you perform. You’d come to know that your value and worth come from inside and how you feel about yourself, not how others see you.

You want to discover yourself, find your purpose, & achieve personal fulfillment. You want to be that confident person who doesn’t worry about what everyone else thinks. You want to be comfortable in your own skin. And you want your voice to be heard and valued. I can help.

Together we can work to increase your self-confidence by decreasing your need to be perfect. We can work together to develop a work/life balance that isn’t based on performance or perfection.

Imposter Syndrome

Have you worked hard to get where you are? Would other people consider you successful? In fact, do people wish they were you? Or have you been told you’re cocky or arrogant?

But deep inside you’re afraid. You don’t feel like you have it all together. You know you don’t have the perfect life everyone thinks you do. You’ve worked hard, but you’re not sure you’ve actually accomplished anything. You’re afraid of failure. You’re afraid everyone will find out that you’re not who they think you are. Do you feel like you’re not good enough…at work, as a spouse, or as a parent?

You’ve worked so hard to be “successful” or to make sure people like you. But you’re out of touch with who you are and don’t even know how to be vulnerable anymore. Your friendships and relationships are surfacy, at best.

Somewhere along the way, on the road to what you thought success should look like, you lost yourself.

Do you wish you could let all that go and just be yourself and be comfortable with who you are? You are enough…just as you are. I can help you reconnect with the real you, conquer your fears of failure, and let go of that extra weight of self-doubt you feel.